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Partner B Assessment

Know yourself before interpreting the relationship.

Use the 1-5 scale to describe your current pattern, not the ideal you wish were true. Honest answers make the results more useful and less performative.

Assessment domain

Personality & Temperament

1. I stay calm when plans change unexpectedly.
2. I recover from disappointment fairly quickly.
3. I follow through on commitments even when I am busy.
4. I prefer structure and predictability in daily life.
5. I enjoy trying new experiences or ideas.
6. I am patient when others see things differently from me.
7. I notice criticism quickly and take it personally.
8. I am organized in my daily routines.
9. I adapt well to change.
10. I tend to feel overwhelmed more easily than most people.

Assessment domain

Attachment & Emotional Safety

1. I feel safe depending on my partner when I need support.
2. I worry about being abandoned during conflict.
3. I feel comfortable being emotionally vulnerable with my partner.
4. When I feel hurt, I usually withdraw before talking.
5. I can trust my partner to respond when I reach out.
6. I need frequent reassurance to feel secure in the relationship.
7. I feel uncomfortable when a relationship becomes too emotionally intense.
8. I can let my partner see my fears, shame, or insecurity.
9. I get anxious when my partner needs space.
10. I find it easy to be close without losing myself.

Assessment domain

Communication Style

1. I say what I mean directly.
2. I am good at listening without interrupting.
3. I can reflect back my partner’s point accurately.
4. I prefer to think privately before discussing hard topics.
5. I ask clarifying questions instead of assuming the worst.
6. I tend to explain my position more than I express my feelings.
7. I can discuss sensitive topics without becoming harsh.
8. I know when my tone becomes sharper than I intend.
9. I feel heard in most of our conversations.
10. I often feel misunderstood even when I explain myself.

Assessment domain

Conflict & Repair

1. We can disagree without attacking each other.
2. I can apologize without needing to defend myself first.
3. I can calm down before a conflict gets out of control.
4. We usually recover well after an argument.
5. I know how to make a repair attempt when things go sideways.
6. I shut down when conflict feels too intense.
7. I become defensive when I feel blamed.
8. I sometimes say things I later regret.
9. We can revisit a hard topic after a break.
10. Our conflicts usually end with clarity or resolution.

Assessment domain

Affection & Intimacy

1. I feel loved when my partner initiates affection.
2. I like regular verbal affirmation from my partner.
3. I feel connected through shared time and attention.
4. I am comfortable talking about sexual expectations.
5. I can express affection in ways my partner receives well.
6. I notice when affection drops, even if nothing is said.
7. I feel awkward discussing needs around sex or touch.
8. I want intimacy to be intentional, not assumed.
9. I can talk about rejection or mismatch without shaming.
10. Our current pace of affection feels satisfying to me.

Assessment domain

Money & Practical Life

1. I am comfortable discussing money openly.
2. I prefer to save before spending on nonessentials.
3. I would want major purchases discussed first.
4. I think transparency matters more than identical spending habits.
5. I am comfortable with a moderate amount of financial risk.
6. I feel anxious when money is not organized.
7. I think debt should be discussed early and clearly.
8. I see generosity as part of healthy financial life.
9. I would rather have a budget than “just figure it out.”
10. I know how my partner sees money.

Assessment domain

Roles, Chores & Work

1. I have a realistic picture of how chores should be shared.
2. I am flexible when work seasons get uneven.
3. I believe both partners should contribute meaningfully at home.
4. I get frustrated when responsibilities are unclear.
5. I would rather define roles than rely on assumptions.
6. I feel respected when my work is valued.
7. I expect us to revisit roles as life changes.
8. I think household labor should be explicit, not invisible.
9. I am comfortable adjusting expectations during busy seasons.
10. I believe fairness matters more than strict equality.

Assessment domain

Family of Origin

1. My family handled conflict in a healthy way most of the time.
2. I learned to avoid conflict by staying quiet.
3. I learned to speak up strongly to be heard.
4. I feel free to set boundaries with my family.
5. My family traditions matter a great deal to me.
6. I expect my partner to understand my family dynamics easily.
7. I have pain from my childhood home that still affects me.
8. I know which family patterns I want to repeat.
9. I know which family patterns I want to change.
10. Family pressure is likely to become a stress point for us.

Assessment domain

Faith, Values & Meaning

1. My faith or worldview strongly shapes my daily decisions.
2. I want our relationship to have a clear sense of purpose.
3. I am comfortable discussing moral convictions with my partner.
4. I want shared spiritual practices to be part of married life.
5. I can respect differences in belief without feeling threatened.
6. I see marriage as a covenant or serious lifelong commitment.
7. Forgiveness is central to how I want to do marriage.
8. I want our home to reflect intentional values.
9. I think spiritual growth should be part of relationship growth.
10. I know how my partner sees faith affecting marriage.

Assessment domain

Parenting & Future Vision

1. I have a clear sense of whether I want children.
2. I have thought about discipline and parenting priorities.
3. I want us to agree on major parenting values before having children.
4. I am comfortable discussing infertility, adoption, or delay.
5. I believe children need warmth and structure.
6. I expect parenting to change our relationship rhythm significantly.
7. I want both partners to share parenting responsibility.
8. I am open to revising plans as we learn.
9. I know what kind of home environment I want to create.
10. I have a realistic idea of how children would affect our lifestyle.